It's been a week of fabulous upset and emotion. The US had a successful election complete with gracious concession and inspiring acceptance speeches. I was on my feet in amazement and delight. It was a point of breathing history where I was grateful to be alive, as electric as when the Ontario Court of Appeal had overturned a ruling and allowed same sex marriage back in 2003. I remember the chaos and unbridled joy of that time, and 11pm on November 4th felt just the same.

Then a few other things got passed that were less pleasing. California, which had previously allowed same sex marriages passed Proposition 8. Now they define marriage as a union between a man and a woman, end of sentence. This is crap. I've had the privilege of conducting hundreds of weddings for Americans over the past few years here in Ontario. And the only difference I've found between same sex and opposite sex unions are that the same sex couples have a slightly higher - but not much - percentage of parents being jerks, and it's much harder to find tasteful cake toppers. That, and because more of the same sex couples had been together for 10, 25, 40 years already I felt they brought something unique and special to the institution and adventure which follows a wedding that does not diminish another's marriage. The millage and fortitude they bring strengthen the whole thing.

And Arkansas move to prevent same sex couples from adopting? Oi. The saddest part there is the waiting adoptable children are denied potentially loving, capable families. And in 10 to 20 years society as a whole is denied a potentially stable, secure adult.

But baby steps. All in all it's a glorious week. All in all it's a fabulous thing. We'll deal with what we can, be grateful for what's in front of us, and never mind what might have been or should be. I see the shadow most clearly, but I'm going to spend a bit more time looking at the light.